A question for Dr. Tony
Hello, my name is Martina, I am 28 year old Aspie and I am from Czech republic. I´d like to post here a question that has been bothering me for a while. I´d really appreciate if you send it to Dr. Tony, so he could read it in one of those video sessions. Thank you.
The question is:
I´ve always been frightened of sex and pregnancy. I find pregrant women repulsive and can´t even imagine being pregnant one day. I am just frightened that I will look and feel like an unapealing whale and my future husband will lose any interest in me. I think it must be due to the sensory issues, I don´t know. Everybody keeps on saying: „When you are ready, you´ll love being pregnant and you´ll feel beautiful." But I know I just WON´T! My fear is so intense that if I found out I am going to have a baby, I would rather go to abortion. And if they talked me into keeping it, I would break into hysterics every five minutes.
Maybe it´s because my childhood. When I was four and I saw my mother pregnant with my sister, she seemed utterly disgusting and scary to me, so I kept on screaming everytime I saw her, and I refused to touch her at all. I just can´t get through it. But I would like to have a child one day! I really like children. But I am afraid that they would never let me adopt a kid because I have Asperger´s, and doing the whole thing through a surrogate mother is illegal in our country.
But the thought of not having children is unbearable and painful for me. It is a very topical question at my age, especially when one decides to enter a relationship. So I would like to ask you if there is a way to get rid of the fear. Would some medical or behavioral therapy help me with this? And if not, do you think that the NT men would be willing to stay with me and get over these fears with me? Like if they would help me overcome it. I am afraid that no man would want a woman like me, and that I will stay alone forever. Sorry for my naivety, I just don´t know what to do. Thank you very much if you decide to answer my question.
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