Ive decided that I want to move in with my boyfriend who also has Aspergers. This is a massive step for us both and I have never lived with anyone else before. He, like everyone has faults though. He comes from a background where he is used to getting everything he wants and when I don't want to do something because it seems a bit weird to me, he is devastated and I feel he is unsuccessfully trying to manipulate me by saying "if you love me etc..."
I come from a very different life and childhood. I hardly ever got to do things I enjoyed and was pretty much stifled. My parents had the money but never spent it and they have never hugged me or said they love me. As a result of my childhood and also possibly because of my Aspergers, I don't understand love. He seems to love too much and I too little. We hold different values and beliefs on love, affection and rules.
Recently he installed an app on my phone which allowed him to essentially track my exact location and he told me he uses it more than 10 times a day every day! He reads my text messages and seems uncomfortable whenever my phone rings. I questioned him about his obvious lack of trust but he just claims this app makes things easier for him. I got so annoyed eventually I deleted this app and he couldn't handle it. He won't stop going on about reinstalling it. To him it might make him more comfortable but to me I feel I am wearing a tag. He also has webcams on all around the apartment which he can watch from his phone when he is out. I hate this. He claims its security but it feels to be honest way too intrusive for me.
How can we work this out before I move in?[:(!]
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